ASSALAMUALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI TA’ALA WABARAKATUH.RESPECTED BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN ISLAM.
I AM REMINDING MYSELF FIRST BEFORE OTHERS. AS WE ARE HEADING TOWARDS THE LAT TEN DAYS OF RAMADAN,…LET US STRIVE NOT TO REPEAT THE FOLLOWING COMMON & TYPICAL MISTAKES …..IN SHA ALLAH!!!
1 : Taking Ramadan as a ritual.
For many of us Ramadan has lost its spirituality and has become more of a ritual than a form of Ibadah. We fast from morning to night like a zombie just because everyone around us is fasting too. We forget that it’s a time to purify our hearts and our souls from all evil....we forget to make du’a, forget to beseech ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY to forgive us and ask Him to save us from the Fire. Sure we stay away from food and drink but that's about all.
Although the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said:
“Jibreel said to me, May Allah rub his nose in the dust, that person to who Ramadan comes and his sins are not forgiven, and I said, Ameen.
Then he said, May Allah rub his nose in the dust, that person who lives to see his parents grow old, one or both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (by not serving them) and I said, Ameen.
Then he said, May Allah rub his nose in the dust, that person in whose presence you are mentioned and he does not send blessings upon you, and I said, Ameen.’”
(Tirmidhi, Ahmad, others. Saheeh by al-Albaani)
2 : Too much stress on food and drink
For some people, the entire month of Ramadan revolves around food. They spend the ENTIRE day planning, cooking, shopping and thinking about only food, food & food instead of concentrating on Salah, Qur’an and other acts of worship. All they can think of is FOOD. So much so that they turn the month of fasting into the month of feasting. Come Iftar time, their table is a sight to see, with the multitudes and varieties of food, sweets and drinks. They are missing the very purpose of fasting, and thus, increase in their greed and desires instead of learning to control them. It is also a kind of waste & extravagance.
".....and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah) likes not Al-Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance)" [Noble Qur’an al-Araaf :31]
3 : Spending all day cooking
Some of the sisters (either by their own choice or forced by their husbands) are cooking ALL day and ALL night, so that by the end of the day, they are too tired to even pray Isha’a, let alone pray Taraweeh or Tahajjud or even read Qur’an. This is the month of mercy and forgiveness. So throw away that aprons, turn off that ovens, stove and abandon that kitchen’s area and turn on your Imaan!
4 : Eating too much
Some people stuff themselves at Suhur until they are ready to burst, because they think this is the way to not feel hungry during the day time and haven’t you seen some people eat at Iftar, like there is no tomorrow?, trying to make up for the food missed?. However, this is completely against the Sunnah. Moderation is the key to everything.
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach; for the son of Adam a few mouthfuls are sufficient to keep his back straight. If you must fill it, then one-third for food, one-third for drink and one-third for air." (Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah. saheeh by al-Albaani).
How many times that we must be told that too much food distracts a person from many deeds of obedience and worship, makes him lazy and also makes the heart heedless.
It was said to Imam Ahmad: Does a man find any softness and humility in his heart when he is full? He said, I do not think so.. ………and I don’t think so either.
5 : Sleeping all day
Some people spend their entire day (or a major part of it) sleeping away their fast. Now tell me..Is this what is really required of us during this noble month? These people also are missing the purpose of fasting and are slaves to their desires of comfort and ease. They cannot bear to be awake and face a little hunger or exert a little self-control. For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is nothing but, negligence on his part.
6 : Wasting time
The month of Ramadan is a precious, precious time, so much so that ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY calls this month "Ayyamum Madoodaat" (A fixed number of days). Before we know it, this month of mercy and forgiveness will be over. We should try and spend every moment possible in the worship of ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY so that we can make the most of this blessing. However, there are some of us who waste away their day playing video games, or worse still, watching TV, movies or even listening to music….not to mention engage themselves in sing-along in Karaoke sessions…ASTAGHFIRULLAH!!! SUBHANALLAH! So much about that kinda Muslims nowadays don’t you agree? Trying to obey ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY by DISOBEYING Him!?
7 : Fasting but not giving up evil
Some of us fast but do not give up lying, cursing, slandering, fighting, backbiting, etc. and some of us fast but do not give up cheating, stealing, dealing in haram, buying lotto /sweepstakes/4Digits Lottery tickets, selling alcohol, fornication, etc. and all kinds of impermissible things without realizing that the purpose of fasting is to not only staying away from food and drink; rather the aim behind it is to fear ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala!!!!!!.
“O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)” [Noble Qur’an al-Baqarah 2:183]
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it, and ignorance, ALLAH has no need of him giving up his food and drink." ~(Bukhari)
8 : Smoking
Smoking is forbidden in Islam whether during Ramadan or outside of it, as it is one of al-Khabaaith (evil things). And this includes ALL kinds of smoking material eg. cigars, cigarettes, pipes, sheesha, hookah etc.
"He allows them as lawful At Tayyibaat (all good and lawful things), and prohibits them as unlawful Al Khabaa'ith (all evil and unlawful things) [ Noble Qur’an al-Araaf :157]
Again we have been informed numerous times before that smoking is harmful, not only to the one smoking, but also to the ones around him. It is also a means of wasting ones wealth. When are we gonna learn?
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "There should be no harming or reciprocating harm."
This is especially true during fasting and it invalidates the fast. (Fatwa -Ibn Uthaymeen)
9 : Skipping Suhur
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Eat suhur for in suhur there is blessing."~(Bukhari & Muslim).
And Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) also said: "The thing that differentiates between our fasting and the fasting of the People of the Book is eating suhur." ~(Muslim)
10 : Stopping Suhur at Imsaak
Some people stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe Imsaak.
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said: This is a kind of bidah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite. Allah allows us to eat until dawn: "and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)" ~[Noble Qur’an al-Baqarah 2:187]
And Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "….eat and drink until you hear the adhan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the adhan until dawn comes."
This imsaak which some of the people do is an addition to what ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala has prescribed, so it is false. It is a kind of extremism in religion, and Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed."~ (Muslim). Do you get that O respected brothers & sisters in Islam?. I sincerely hope that we all will…In sha ALLAH.
11 : Not fasting if they missed Suhur
Some people are too scared to fast if they miss Suhur. However, this is a kind of cowardice and love of ease. What is the big deal if you missed a few morsels of food? It’s not like you will die. Remember, obedience to ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala overcomes everything. Now what kinda Muslims are you? A weak ones? Let’s go back to basics.
12 : Saying the intention to fast out loud or saying a specific du'a to start fasting.
The intention is an action of the heart. We should resolve in our heart that we are going to fast tomorrow. That is all we need. It is not prescribed by the Shariah for us to say out loud, "I intend to fast", "I will fast tomorrow" or other phrases that have been innovated by some people.
13 : Delaying breaking fast
Some people wait until the adhan finishes or even several minutes after that, just to be on the safe side. However, the Sunnah is to hasten to break the fast, which means breaking fast whenever the adhan starts, right after the sun has set. Aishah (Radiyallahu Anha) said: This is what the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) used to do”. ~(Muslim)
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "The people will continue to do well so long as they hasten to break the fast."~ (Bukhari & Muslim)
Determine to the best of your ability, the accuracy of your clock, calendar, etc. and then have tawakkal on ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala and break your fast exactly on time.
14 : Eating continuously until the time for Maghrib is up.
Some people if not all, will put so much food in their plates when breaking their fast and continue eating, enjoying dessert, drinking tea, etc., until they miss Maghrib. That is obviously not right. The Sunnah of the Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) was that once he broke his fast with some dates, then he would hasten to the prayer. Once you are done with the prayer, you can always go back and eat some more if you wish.
15 : Missing the golden chance of having your Du’a accepted
The prayer of the fasting person is guaranteed to be accepted at the time of breaking fast.
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Three prayers are not rejected: the prayer of a father, the prayer of a fasting person, and the prayer of a traveler." ~(al-Bayhaqi, saheeh by al-Albaani).
Instead of sitting down and making Du’a at this precious time, some people forego this beautiful chance, and are too busy munching, chewing, burping, talking, setting the food, filling their plates and glasses, etc. Think about it....Is food more important than the chance to have your sins forgiven or the fulfillment of your Duas?. Yeah…yeah, as expected you will certainly prefer the food more…am I right? Astaghfirullah Al’azeem….
16 : Fasting but not praying
The fasting of one who does not pray WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED. This is because not praying constitutes kufr as the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his giving up prayer." ~(Muslim)
In fact, NONE of his good deeds will be accepted; rather, they are all annulled.
"Whoever does not pray Asr, his good deeds will be annulled." ~(Bukhari)
17 : Fasting and not wearing Hijaab
Not wearing the Hijab is a major sin as it is obligatory for Muslim women. (See Surah Nur, Surah Ahzaab). So fasting and not wearing hijab certainly takes away enormously from the rewards of fasting, even if does not invalidate it.
18 : Not fasting because of exams or work
Exams or work is NOT one of the excuses allowed by the Shariah to not fast. You can do your studying and revision at night if it is too hard to do that during the day. Also remember that pleasing and obeying ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta’ala is much more important than good grades. Besides, if you will fulfill your obligation to fast, even if you have to study, ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY will make it easy for you and help you in everything you do.
Please read: "Whosoever fears Allah, He will appoint for him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect, Allah is Sufficient for whosoever puts his trust in Him." ~(Noble Qur’an Surah at-Talaaq 2-3)
19 : Mixing fasting and dieting
DO NOT make the mistake of fasting with the intention to diet. That is one of the biggest mistakes some of us make (especially the sisters). Fasting is an act of worship and can only be for the sake of ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala alone.
Otherwise, mixing it with the intention of dieting may become a form of (minor) Shirk.
20 : Fighting over the number of Raka’ah of Taraweeh
There is no specific number of raka’ahs for Taraweeh prayer, rather it is permissible to do a little or a lot. Both 8 and 20 are okay. Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said: "No one should be denounced for praying eleven or twenty-three (raka’ah), because the matter is broader in scope than that, praise be to ALLAH." See? This is another thing that will divide us Muslims if we continue to dwell on it after you’ve known the truth.
21 : Praying ONLY on the night of the 27th
Some people pray ONLY on the 27th to seek Lailat ul-Qadr, neglecting all other odd nights, although the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Seek Lailat ul-Qadr among the odd numbered nights of the last ten nights of Ramadan." ~(Bukhaari, Muslim).
22 : Wasting the last part of Ramadan preparing for Eid.
Some people waste the entire last 10 days of Ramadan preparing for Eid, shopping and frequenting malls, etc. neglecting Ibadah and Lailatul Qadr. although, Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) used to strive the hardest during the last ten days of Ramadan in worship (Ahmad, Muslim) and not in shopping. Buy whatever you need for Eid before Ramadan so that you can utilize the time in Ramadan to the maximum.
Aishah (Radiyallahu Anha) said: “When the (last) ten nights began, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) would tighten his waist-wrapper (i.e., strive hard in worship or refrain from intimacy with his wives), stay awake at night and wake his family.” ~(Bukhari and Muslim).
23 : Iftar open houses / parties.
Although inviting each other for breaking fast is something good and encouraged, some people go to extremes with lavish Iftar parties with all sorts of disobedience to ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY, from flirting, mixing of the sexes and hijab-less women, to show-off and extravagance, to heedlessness to Salah, and Traweeh to even music and dancing.
LET’S STRIVE NOT TO REPEAT THE SAME IN THIS RAMADAN…IN SHA ALLAH!!!
SUBHANALLAH!!! ALHAMDULILLAH!!! WALA ILAHA ILLALLAHU ALLAHUAKBAR!!!
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